How do you make a happy family?

I was talking with a friend the other day and she asked me the question above. I said a lot of stuff but also went back home to think more about. I decided to make a post here about it so we can get engaged and i will also like to get your views about the topic in the comment section

There are a dozens of things you must do together with your closest relatives and the happiness will stay there.

With happiness all the good things will come sooner or later!

Also, you can’t really “make” a happy family. You can do things, and encourage others to do things, that correlate with happiness. But, members of the family still have to choose happiness, at some level.

Things that tend to correlate with family happiness:

  1. Everyone works. Each member has duties, for the betterment of the family.
  2. Meaningful family time. Set aside time during the day/week to enjoy and celebrate each other.
  3. Distraction-free Meals. Sit around the table, talk, share, etc.
  4. Shared Goals. Having a short/medium/long-term goal for the family, and everyone have visibility and effort to it.
  5. Help Others. Cleaning trash from the road, picking up a neighbor’s yard, volunteering.

Then on another note, we are all different with different families. There’s no special formula to this. Every family is different. All have their ups and downs, moments of happiness and sadness , laughter and grievances.

But still inspite of all this, the family which sticks together stays forever.

Communication is the key. Speak on all matters even though you aren’t an expert in many subjects but talk freely without any inhibitions.

Respect for each other , sharing of household chores, take active participation in your children’s activities, have healthy debates on family matters , give space to each other and do your part without complaining , cribbing and minimize expectations from your better half. If you have special reserves, I would love to know what you think below.

 

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Family Blog and Keeping Memories

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“The bad news is that time flies. The good news is that you are in control.” Most of us never really comprehended the seriousness of this quote by Michael Altshuler until we become parents. Though days seem long, months slip by and before you realize it, a year has flown by. Many parents will attest to this: Your child is crawling today and before you know it he or she is 5 or 10 years old. Most parents’ attention is usually divided between caring for the kids, maintaining households, work responsibilities and sometimes we hope to spend a few hours here and there on ourselves.

But the truth is that in the world we live in today, busy days blend and it is very hard to stay with everything including, dance classes, soccer schedules, birthdays and even more important to recall the unique moments that cheer us up. Most of the time the amazing things that your child says during breakfast, the things that you promise yourself to remember for a lifetime, are usually out of your mind within a few hours!

Amazing. This is lovely. Thought for the week. God help us.

Christ a poet

Do you know why you cannot send a file that you have not first downloaded? It is simply because you cannot give what you do not have. In the same vein, you cannot forgive wholly if you have not accepted the Lord’s forgiveness.

–  Favour Omeje

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False-Truth

Guys check this out.
If you are considering taking your life, ask for help! Share your struggles with someone you love and trust.
For those of you who know and love someone who has taken their life and you believe them to be a Christian, let me say this: Some people have asked me before, “If a Christian commits suicide, do they go to hell?” and my answer is a resounding no!

If a person goes to heaven, it’s because they know and trust Jesus as their Savior, not because of how religious or put-together they seem. In the same way, if a person goes to hell, it’s because they do not know or trust Jesus.
If you’re reading this, your story is not over. Jesus wants us to have a life full of joy, hope and peace. Just remember that if ain’t good, God ain’t done. He works all things (even the things that seem hard right now) together for our good

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I’m not good enough
Daddy is taking Ada out for the third time because she aced her exams and I did not
It’s the 4th time I’m being dumped for the better one who happens to bear my second name
Yes! I took the pain to please my team and they chose David instead to take the lead
Right now, I can’t look my wife in the face because I was not strong enough to rescue our only son before the car exploded in my face
It’s 5 of 5 times I gave my opinion only to be overlooked by Tunde my coworker, who later brushed it up at the board meeting and was given a cool offer
I even better my life savings on the victory of my soccer club and the other club won
And now I remember that it was momma who never believed a word a…

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WHY I STARTED BLOGGING

Guys I have not gotten any feedback on why you love to blog or why you started blogging.
HERE IS THE POST I MADE WEEKS AGO

After The ''I do''

WHY I STARTED BLOGGING

I was going through various blogs on steemit.com weeks back and i found a contest post for bloggers.

We were encouraged to write a blog post with not less than 300 words on any (1) of the following topics / themes:

  1. WHY YOU STARTED A BLOG
  2. WHAT DID YOU LEARN ABOUT BLOGGING
  3. WHAT DO YOU HATE MOST ABOUT BLOGGING
  4. WHAT DO YOU LIKE MOST ABOUT BLOGGING

So i decided to go for the first one which is ”WHY I STARTED BLOGGING”

Well in 2017, my husband and I got married and he had two kids, so I became an immediate step mum. I loved documenting everything that we were doing in our lives, I loved sharing them, but I was putting them all into a scrap book. So I literally had it all in the rough, the only time people saw them was when they visited and I will be…

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Why do people want to have kids and raise a family?

I was thinking about this just now in the kitchen and I was writing down my thoughts.

I’ve come to the conclusion that It’s just down to personal choice, doing “what’s normal” in society. (I call it playing the sheep role).

There is nothing wrong at all, with having a partner you can co-habitate with in the long-term. Without the stress and expenses of children and the unnecessary so called “requirement” of marriage.

You can still be in love, and love each other dearly as any married couple. It all comes from inside you and your partners heart. A ring and a piece of paper are just objects of proof in my opinion.

Some people choose that lifestyle due to family pressure, religious fulfillment, and feel that if they didn’t pass on anything they won’t feel complete.

And if they refuse to do “what’s normal” society will tend to look down on them and think they have something wrong and they’re selfish.

In the animal kingdom it’s a natural instinct to reproduce, it’s the same with humans. So that does play a part as well. But the getting married part, isn’t part of the animal kingdom..

You don’t see chimpanzee and baboons, or lions and tigers having marriage ceremonies do you?

It’s a choice you and your partner make, not a requirement as what most religious people, or people who watch to much Disney would think.

People also want a family to love them and cherish them. It’s the only thing that really belongs to them. With family there is togetherness. The family eventually grows with the kids growing into adults and having a family of their own. With their children more families are formed and the family grows and grows.

It’s really just about love. When you have a family there is a lot of love and togetherness. Sometimes there are arguments, but when things are hard the family is always there to talk with you or give you that pick up you need so much. This is family.

WHY I STARTED BLOGGING

WHY I STARTED BLOGGING

I was going through various blogs on steemit.com weeks back and i found a contest post for bloggers.

We were encouraged to write a blog post with not less than 300 words on any (1) of the following topics / themes:

  1. WHY YOU STARTED A BLOG
  2. WHAT DID YOU LEARN ABOUT BLOGGING
  3. WHAT DO YOU HATE MOST ABOUT BLOGGING
  4. WHAT DO YOU LIKE MOST ABOUT BLOGGING

So i decided to go for the first one which is ”WHY I STARTED BLOGGING”

Well in 2017, my husband and I got married and he had two kids, so I became an immediate step mum. I loved documenting everything that we were doing in our lives, I loved sharing them, but I was putting them all into a scrap book. So I literally had it all in the rough, the only time people saw them was when they visited and I will be like ”Hey, look at my scrap book”, look at everything we have been doing isn’t that great!
But the thing is the not everyone wants to go through your scrap books over and over, so I discovered blogging. Its just been so great for me to be able to document everything that we have been doing, sharing things with my friends, and meet tons of other people all through blogging, and discovering this whole online world out there.
In 2018, I found out that i was pregnant, and my husband and I have been trying, so we were super excited. Well, I lost that baby at 8 weeks, and I have been a step mum which I loved being, but there was a part of me that wanted my own kids. I wanted kids to call me mum, but unfortunately we lost that baby. I was devastated, I thought there was something wrong with me, obviously there was nothing because ever since I have had three kids who are three and half and under, so clearly we had no problems whatsoever.
Anyway since I lost a child as at that time, that became a way for me to reach out and meet other people, I started getting into online forums, and the connection I was making with people who have been through the experience was huge. It was really like a jumping off point for me to get going on my blog, and now its a huge part of my life I love documenting the things that we are doing and I love knowing that my kids are going to be able to look back and read about the things that mum wrote about when they were probably 3 or younger. I also want them to appreciate posts like this whereby one day if I am gone, the kids can look back and be like ”I LOVE READING ABOUT MY MUM, THIS IS WHAT SHE LOVED DOING”
So I love blogging, I love what it does for my family and I also love the gift that it is to give to my kids later on in life.

Below is the link to the contest if you want to join in. I will also like to read about your own experience, so do me a favor to comment the link to your blog post so I can read about you too.

Contest for Bloggers

This Is The Best Thing About My Family. Whats yours?

The best thing about my family is that we know that we have each other’s back. We remember that we all are living this life to face everything together.

The support, love and affection you get from your family is the best thing and I can’t ask for more.

When you can leave for office without any worries, be it the house or your kids, it’s something that relaxes one part of your brain and you know that you have to handle the stress of the office only.

Family plays an important role in our lives, and having an understanding and supportive one is certainly a blessing.

I have a great sister in law as well who is loving and caring.

We all celebrate birthdays and anniversaries together. I am proud of having such family members who make me feel relieved of all the stress in their presence.

Then the other one is not my side of family in particular, it’s my husband’s family and I say this because they have been the same even before I was married into theirs’.

  • Everyone of them are very affectionate towards each other and respect the need of others.
  • They ensure that they attend the family functions, no matter where they are and how they are. I mean, every single event and no excuses even if it is so trivial.
  • They work together like cooking for guests, taking care of the entire event with less hassles. They take whole responsibility of the food, arrangements, decorations. They give their 100% participation throughout the day. And it is not restricted to adults, except little kids, everyone else take part.
  • When a family member is unwell, they extend their support in taking care of them, providing moral support and cater their needs. They work full-time so they have their share of stress and other factors involved, but they always make themselves available when someone needs help.

They do all these with utmost care and compassion. It might look usual, but for me, it doesn’t happen this way in my family as we never went out of our way to assist others. It’s good as there are values, compassion and humanity still alive in our present generations.

A single incident that made me respect them more was when I got stuck in floods while I was 9+ months pregnant with my first baby. They came all the way to Chennai while making arrangements in few other places in our route so they could continue rescuing me if at all they are unable to do it at the first attempt. They were never worried about their life and sped up so much so that they reached Chennai from Coimbatore in 5 to 6 hours. They never knew if they can come in, as there were water logging everywhere and people were shifted in boats in some places. They never hesitated. They had an awesome coordination, cooperation and willingness to help.

They brought food, got me checked up in a hospital before proceeding further, took innumerable short breaks during the journey and put my needs in front of their own. It could have never happened if their wife, children and other family members weren’t supportive.

It is truly amazing to see their spirits and I am so much grateful to them. They are the best!