Why do people want to have kids and raise a family?

I was thinking about this just now in the kitchen and I was writing down my thoughts.

I’ve come to the conclusion that It’s just down to personal choice, doing “what’s normal” in society. (I call it playing the sheep role).

There is nothing wrong at all, with having a partner you can co-habitate with in the long-term. Without the stress and expenses of children and the unnecessary so called “requirement” of marriage.

You can still be in love, and love each other dearly as any married couple. It all comes from inside you and your partners heart. A ring and a piece of paper are just objects of proof in my opinion.

Some people choose that lifestyle due to family pressure, religious fulfillment, and feel that if they didn’t pass on anything they won’t feel complete.

And if they refuse to do “what’s normal” society will tend to look down on them and think they have something wrong and they’re selfish.

In the animal kingdom it’s a natural instinct to reproduce, it’s the same with humans. So that does play a part as well. But the getting married part, isn’t part of the animal kingdom..

You don’t see chimpanzee and baboons, or lions and tigers having marriage ceremonies do you?

It’s a choice you and your partner make, not a requirement as what most religious people, or people who watch to much Disney would think.

People also want a family to love them and cherish them. It’s the only thing that really belongs to them. With family there is togetherness. The family eventually grows with the kids growing into adults and having a family of their own. With their children more families are formed and the family grows and grows.

It’s really just about love. When you have a family there is a lot of love and togetherness. Sometimes there are arguments, but when things are hard the family is always there to talk with you or give you that pick up you need so much. This is family.

WHY I STARTED BLOGGING

WHY I STARTED BLOGGING

I was going through various blogs on steemit.com weeks back and i found a contest post for bloggers.

We were encouraged to write a blog post with not less than 300 words on any (1) of the following topics / themes:

  1. WHY YOU STARTED A BLOG
  2. WHAT DID YOU LEARN ABOUT BLOGGING
  3. WHAT DO YOU HATE MOST ABOUT BLOGGING
  4. WHAT DO YOU LIKE MOST ABOUT BLOGGING

So i decided to go for the first one which is ”WHY I STARTED BLOGGING”

Well in 2017, my husband and I got married and he had two kids, so I became an immediate step mum. I loved documenting everything that we were doing in our lives, I loved sharing them, but I was putting them all into a scrap book. So I literally had it all in the rough, the only time people saw them was when they visited and I will be like ”Hey, look at my scrap book”, look at everything we have been doing isn’t that great!
But the thing is the not everyone wants to go through your scrap books over and over, so I discovered blogging. Its just been so great for me to be able to document everything that we have been doing, sharing things with my friends, and meet tons of other people all through blogging, and discovering this whole online world out there.
In 2018, I found out that i was pregnant, and my husband and I have been trying, so we were super excited. Well, I lost that baby at 8 weeks, and I have been a step mum which I loved being, but there was a part of me that wanted my own kids. I wanted kids to call me mum, but unfortunately we lost that baby. I was devastated, I thought there was something wrong with me, obviously there was nothing because ever since I have had three kids who are three and half and under, so clearly we had no problems whatsoever.
Anyway since I lost a child as at that time, that became a way for me to reach out and meet other people, I started getting into online forums, and the connection I was making with people who have been through the experience was huge. It was really like a jumping off point for me to get going on my blog, and now its a huge part of my life I love documenting the things that we are doing and I love knowing that my kids are going to be able to look back and read about the things that mum wrote about when they were probably 3 or younger. I also want them to appreciate posts like this whereby one day if I am gone, the kids can look back and be like ”I LOVE READING ABOUT MY MUM, THIS IS WHAT SHE LOVED DOING”
So I love blogging, I love what it does for my family and I also love the gift that it is to give to my kids later on in life.

Below is the link to the contest if you want to join in. I will also like to read about your own experience, so do me a favor to comment the link to your blog post so I can read about you too.

Contest for Bloggers

Family; Blood is Indeed Thicker Than Water

They say blood is thicker than water.

And indeed it is!

When you are born, you are taken care by your parents, your siblings, especially by your grandmothers! Then comes a time when your parents put in so much efforts to give you education and take you to tours to make you show around the world. They do all the stuffs they can do with their savings to make you grow. Even though they scold us, but all that have reasons! They don’t want you to face what they faced! They are not always right but then who is always right, isn’t it?

Every thing starts and ends with having a family with values where there is a strong bond among the family members. The family gives a person a sense of belonging such that the feeling is truly amazing. Knowing that you can let your guard down and be yourself without the fear or apprehension of being judged.

Unless you are a person of great importance like a top entrepreneur, scientist, leader of a nation, a sanyasi or too poor to meet the basic ends meet then only having a family is mostly a liability. Most of the middle class couples might see their faces only at evening time or for few minutes only but that small time period is enough to give a sense of homely satisfaction.

Many people like you have begun to question marriage and family making. They are realizing the point of it is mostly responsibility, security for loved ones and proper nurturing atmosphere which can be really challenging at times, such that the benefits like emotional support, happiness, affection is merely 20–25% if looked at an average house hold. Also no matter how the world interprets the meaning of marriage or family its done for the individuals desire. Having a husband/wife, daughter/son etc is mostly for the self fulfillment rather than actually be willing to let yourself be submitted to the other persons welfare, because had that been the case many family issues that we come to hear would have never risen.

Having such a support system who are always going to be there no matter what, and who have always tried to make sure you remain an important part of their lives, I think we should also keep them under the badge of ‘most important ones’ of our lives!

Family Blog and Keeping Memories

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“The bad news is that time flies. The good news is that you are in control.” Most of us never really comprehended the seriousness of this quote by Michael Altshuler until we become parents. Though days seem long, months slip by and before you realize it, a year has flown by. Many parents will attest to this: Your child is crawling today and before you know it he or she is 5 or 10 years old. Most parents’ attention is usually divided between caring for the kids, maintaining households, work responsibilities and sometimes we hope to spend a few hours here and there on ourselves.

But the truth is that in the world we live in today, busy days blend and it is very hard to stay with everything including, dance classes, soccer schedules, birthdays and even more important to recall the unique moments that cheer us up. Most of the time the amazing things that your child says during breakfast, the things that you promise yourself to remember for a lifetime, are usually out of your mind within a few hours!